On writing

This is one of the best advice I’ve heard on writing. It works for me. It has helped me in so many different occasions. I think it’s something to do with the ADHD Brain. It goes like this: That the reason you can’t plan an essay the way that others do isn’t because your mind goes blank — but because it thinks of too much at once and explodes in all directions.  Get a sheet of paper […]

10 March 2021

Brain Disorders as Fantastic Beasts

Someone asked me about the cover picture of WorkWithTheBrainYouHave Community Page. I created that picture, mentioning 7 different brain disorders: ADD/ADHD, Bipolar, Anxiety, Depression, Borderline Personality Disorder, Autism, and OCD. The reason I put them there is because those are the 7 conditions that I am the most familiar with. As I mentioned before, DISCLAIMER: I AM NOT A DOCTOR OR A MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONAL.  I am a person who has Bipolar type 2, ADD (Inattentive ADHD), […]

31 January 2021

Borderline Personality Disorder – Taming the Beast

In my opinion, BPD is one of the most stigmatized and misunderstood brain disorders out there. Because it is a Personality Disorder, even the person who suffers from it, often is not aware that he/she has it. Toby Allen, an illustrator who decided to deal with explaining and conquering such mental illness types as depression, borderline personality, and anxiety disorder by recreating them as cute monsters drew BPD as the picture above. I can’t agree more. I […]

31 January 2021

What to focus on when we’re going through a depression bout

At times when we’re going through a depression bout; I think it’s very easy for us to get distracted, to look at troubles and challenges around us, instead of fixing our eyes on what we should be focusing on. It’s really easy to see the negatives, and it takes effort to stay positive and hopeful. As a person with clinical depression, I know that situation too well. In most mornings when I wake up, it’s hard for […]

31 January 2021

We all need gentle support and validation

A woman lost her son to suicide and she shared her story in our group. Within minutes, she got the support she really needed. Our You’re Not Alone group is special in that way. Dear friends, if your hurting, please don’t hesitate to reach out to us Much love ?, ? Sophie

31 January 2021

Overcoming Learning Disability

This story is a tribute to Ati, my grandmama, a woman who believed in me and taught me how to have the persistence of a bulldog. I was struggling as a child with a learning disability. I actually quit school in grade 4, because I was badly bullied. It was my grandmama Ati who saved me from illiteracy. She did it by telling me stories.  Every night before I go to bed, she would be telling me […]

31 January 2021

A Memoir of a Teacher

A story of a little girl’s fight to become a teacher during and after the Dutch occupation in Indonesia. Note: Today would have been Ati’s 101st Birthday. Ati is how I called my grandmama, the first woman in my family who went to school, got higher education and became a teacher. She was the one who taught me the value of persistence. She taught me to dream big. She was also the teacher who helped me overcoming […]

31 January 2021

SiDNEY SHELDON & Bipolar

“Sidney, you told me that you wanted to be a writer more than anything in the world.” He suddenly had my attention. “That was yesterday.” “What about tomorrow?” I looked at him puzzled. “What?” “You don’t know what can happen tomorrow. Life is like a novel, isn’t it? It’s filled with suspense. You have no idea what’s going to happen until you turn the page.” “I know what’s going to happen. Nothing.” “You don’t really know that, […]

31 January 2021

Here’s to the Crazy Ones

“Here’s to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round pegs in the square holes. The ones who see things differently. They’re not fond of rules. And they have no respect for the status quo. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them. About the only thing you can’t do is ignore them. Because they change things. They push the human race forward. And while some may see them as the […]

31 January 2021

A Knight

I am a member of Chivalry Now, a non profit organization started by Dean Jacques. Years ago, one of the members posted a poem that I really like. The poem above is an adaptation of the original poem posted on the group. I couldn’t find the information of the original writer, to whom I want to give credit to. I have this poem printed and posted on my wall as a daily reminder for me. Knights are […]

31 January 2021

Depression part 1

WHAT DOES DEPRESSION FEEL LIKE “ … it felt like I was trying to climb up a steep gravel incline and no matter how hard I spun my wheels, it was impossible to gain any ground. I’d just keep slipping further and further down, with nothing to grab onto to stop my descent. Everything felt heavy. Doing the simplest task felt like walking through a swimming pool. Getting out of bed was damn near impossible. Getting off […]

1 November 2020

Melt-in-your-mouth Chocolate Coffee Cake

WHAT TO GET: For the cake: – 190 g dark chocolate – 4 eggs, separated – 100 g sugar – 190 g unsalted butter – 2 tbsp espresso – 60 g cake flour For the chocolate fudge glaze: – 200 g dark chocolate – 3/4 c heavy cream For the chocolate leaves: – 150 g dark chocolate – 50 g white chocolate WHAT TO DO The Cake 1. Butter and flour a 20 cm cake pan. Preheat […]

1 November 2020